Q: I am female and my boyfriend and I have sex frequently, but I’ve never had an orgasm. Here is my problem: he will be on top and will be doing some sort of move that feels wonderful and if he were to keep it up I would possibly have an orgasm. Problem is it just so happens that’s what makes him have his orgasm too. What can we do so that I can experience what would happen if he were to keep going? And this is the only position that I have found that feels like I could possibly experience an orgasm. Any tips on what I could do to experience an orgasm? Also he always wants me to “talk dirty” during sex and when he asks me that I just draw blank lines…any suggestions on what I could say?
A: Have you ever had an orgasm while masturbating? If so, you might want to think about recreating that sensation while having sex with your boyfriend. However, do not be closed off to the idea that you can have an orgasm in more than one position with varying types of stimulation. If you have not ever had an orgasm, even while masturbating, you may want to think about what kinds of mental or emotional blocks you have around letting go.
If there is this one particularly great position that seems to work for both of you, but your boyfriend always orgasms first, you can either try recreating this position with a dildo, or you can work on having him hold out a little longer before he has his orgasm. There are many different suggested techniques for guys to last longer, but different things work for different people. Perhaps he can masturbate a few hours before you have sex and that might help him last longer. Try looking up other techniques online if you’re still curious about that.
As for talking dirty, we don’t have any specific lines or phrases that we think you should say. But, if you want to be prepared, think about some things in advance and write them down for yourself. There are also some suggestions at Sex Info 101. Also, you can look for erotic stories as those might give you some good ideas. Then, when the situation arises again you’ll have some things in mind to say.
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