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Q: I have never done masturbation in my life. I feel scary doing it. I am 25 years of age and single. I want to know is masturbating yourself is safe or not? Does it cause any harm to your health cause me any problems after I get married? Is it a healthy activity if one should do it, especially a woman? I have never done it yet so does that mean am I not a normal girl ?

A: Several studies have shown that most women masturbate (between 70 and 95%, depending on the survey). There is a lot of variation among individual women, however. Some masturbate frequently, some occasionally, and some may not masturbate at all. Many women start masturbating in their teens, but it is perfectly normal for a woman to learn to masturbate when she is older, or to decide that she is not interested in masturbation.

It is up to you to decide if masturbation is right for you, but there is no medical or scientific reason why a woman shouldn’t masturbate. Masturbating is almost always safe and can even have some health benefits, like reducing stress. Masturbation is also a great way for a woman to learn about her sexual response so she can later teach her partner what feels good to her. This can be important because most women need direct clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm. In this way, learning to masturbate now could have a positive effect on sex in your future relationships.

Common methods of female masturbation are rubbing the clitoris with the fingers, rubbing the pelvic area against an object like a pillow, using a vibrator on the clitoral area, or using the water from a shower head or faucet to stimulate the clitoris. These practices are all safe. It is also common for women to insert objects into the vagina during masturbation. It is usually best to use a dildo made for this purpose rather than a household or food item that could break or have sharp edges.

Here is a photo showing how to find the clitoris:

Some women enjoy stimulation of their G-Spot. You can read more about it at this Wikipedia article on the G-Spot.

In general, masturbation can be a very pleasurable experience and a great way to learn about your body. It can take practice, so it is often better to relax and enjoy the experience than to focus on having an orgasm the first few times you experiment with masturbation. There are a lot of resources on the internet at places such as Wikipedia and Scarleteen.com that can help you out with these topics.