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What happened to my girlfriend’s libido?

Q: I visited your website and found it useful for me. I am male and want to know the answers of the following questions:

1. My girlfriend was very hot in the beginning but now her desire for sex is almost finished. A year ago when I sucked her nipple she moaned and lift her legs and became so hot, but now she does not like nipple sucking or pussy licking. How I can improve the situation?

2. She had a “traditional smell” in her vagina in the beginning when we met but now her vagina is without any kind of smell. Can she get back that smell?

A: It sounds as though your girlfriend is experiencing a low point in her libido, or sexual excitability. This could explain the change in her vaginal odor as well. There are many possible reasons for a lack of sexual arousal:

For example, she may have a medical condition, so she might definitely want to consider ruling this out with a visit to her medical doctor.

Or she may be experiencing some sort of psychological condition affecting her libido. A licensed psychotherapist who has developed a scope of practice which includes sexual issues would be a good person to consult. Depression can greatly reduce a person’s interest in sex. Feeling stressed out could also be a cause.

One common common reason for a lack of interest in sex is that she has become a bit bored. You might want to ask her about this - for example, if there is anything in particular that she desires now in your sex play to spice things up? Many people find that by changing positions, including more or less talking or vocalization during sex, trying out role playing, costumes, or other fantasies they are able to rekindle their passions.

It’s quite normal for couples to go through a “honeymoon period” of six months to two years where the sex is hot, and then sex often declines in frequency and intensity as the relationship begins to settle into a more comfortable long-term pattern.

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