Should I worry about my boyfriend’s taste in porn?

Q: I feel insecure because my shorter boyfriend likes to look at “young,” “teen,” and “petite” porn. As a 5′10″ woman in her 30s, these are fantasies I can obviously not satisfy. Do I have reason to worry? If not, what do you suggest I do to overcome this insecurity?

A: Many people enjoy watching porn that involves sex that they are not necessarily interested in, and porn definitely falls within the fantasy realm. Some straight men will even watch gay porn even though they do not want that type of sex for themselves. You do not have reason to worry, because since your boyfriend is with you, then you are the type of woman that he is attracted to and wants to have sex with.

We would suggest checking out porn selections for yourself and exploring the different kinds of porn available that glorify women that are similar to yourself. This could help you with any insecurities because you will see tall women/ women in their 30s in sexy situations, etc. If you bring home a porn selection that you want to watch with your boyfriend, he will probably be happy to join you.

Here are a couple links to give you some ideas:

Violet Blue’s Smart Porn

The Goodvibes video selection