Q: I am female. I have been having intercourse for a fairly short time-the latest being my fourth. Every time, however, I have the same problem–penetration is painful; not unbearable, but certainly not normal or slight. Relaxation or lubrication is not the problem, nor is my partner doing anything to cause this. He is very patient and even offers to stop constantly, and did so the last time because he didn’t want to hurt me. Neither of us have any infections/STDs to cause it. Is this normal? Will it improve with time?
A: Some people may experience pain the first few times they have intercourse. It sounds like you and your partner are doing everything possible to make this a pleasurable experience. Open communication before, during and after sex is crucial to having a good time, finding out what both of you like, and even making improvements. It helps to be relaxed, and you may want to try using a water-based lubricant to aid your own natural lubrication. This may seem unnecessary, but it often makes a huge difference for many people. One thing you may want to try is warming up with fingers or a smaller sex toy. Going from nothing to penis may be a big jump and it might be helpful to start off with something smaller. You also may want to try different positions to see what works best for you- people are different, and not every position is comfortable for everyone. If you try these things and continue to experience pain every time, you may want to see a doctor. Hope this helps.
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I wanted to mention something about your answer to a later question. The last one in this colum. A 19 yo virgin asked why penitration was hard. I thought you answer it very well. My only suggestion, is that perhaps you should have mentioned that there could me a considerable amount of blood. When the hymen rips. I’ve known women who told me there first time was scary because of the blood.
That’s all
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