Q: Hey, I’m a 17 year old junior in high school, and I’ve been friends with my neighbor since I can remember. His sister, 14, has always gotten along with me also. She asked me if we wanted to go “hang out” in her room. But then luckily some friends I play football with drove by, and I went to a party. Am I a massive asshat if I take her up on her offer? I feel it could be wrong since we have known each other for such a long time and 4 years seems like a HUGE difference.
Thanks!
(she is ridiculously hot though)
Also, if I do take her up on her offer, and we start hanging out more, how do I talk to her brother about it, without making him want to hit me?
PS. Thinking about this doesn’t make me an asshat of a friend and a pervert right?
A: You are definitely not a pervert because you are attracted to your friend’s sister. Most boys your age are attracted to one or some of the girls in their lives, and this is completely normal.
First of all, just because your friend’s sister asked you to “hang out”, it does not necessarily mean that things need to get physical between you two. You might want to talk to her to see exactly what she wants (dating, relationship, something physical, etc) before you decide to do anything.
Secondly, 3 or 4 years can be a pretty big difference, especially next year when you turn 18, when there could be legal concerns depending on how her parents feel about your relationship. We have read that in your state, the legal age of consent is currently 14 with parental consent and 16 without it. We are not lawyers, however, and these laws do change. Things could turn out ok, however. It depends a lot on both you and this girl, how mature you both are, and how both of your families feel about things.
You mentioned that you are afraid of your friend, this girl’s brother. You may want to try talking to him about how you feel and about what his sister has said, and see how he reacts to that. From there, you can gauge whether or not it is worth pursuing things with the sister.
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