Q: I have tried all kinds of solutions, but every time I have sex with a girl I come within a matter of minutes. Same thing for when I masturbate. I am 19 and I live in a college town where I frequently hook up with girls. Every time I have sex it seems that I lose more and more self esteem. The only times I have ever been able to control my ejaculation/climax is when I took MDMA (ecstasy). I literally went for hours. I would love to be able to do that every time without hurting my body. I have taken 5-HTP because I thought my serotonin levels were low, but still nothing. I feel like my sex life is hopeless. Please help me.
A: First of all, 2-10 minutes is actually the typical time for a male to reach orgasm, and at your age it is absolutely normal to reach orgasm very quickly. Secondly, many girls would prefer a shorter session to a session that lasts for hours because long sessions of PV sex can lead to pain for women.
As far as suggestions go:
-One thing you can do (if you’re comfortable with masturbation) is to bring yourself close to the point of orgasm, then pause to allow the orgasm cycle to relax, then continue until you get close again, and repeat. This can help train yourself into lasting longer.
-You can also take short breaks during intercourse (engage in other sexual activity- such as oral sex) to essentially do the same thing and extend the session.
-They also make condoms that are thicker than usual to decrease sensitivity, and condoms that contain a desensitizing substance on the inside (Durex Performax, for example).
Also, worrying/thinking about coming too soon will be likely to increase the chance of it happening. Try to relax, have a good time, and you’ll be fine.
[ Cross posted from Yahoo! Answers, where this SFSI Answer was chosen best answer to this question. ]
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