San Francisco Sex Information » Hot Karl http://blog.sfsi.org Free, confidential, non-judgmental advice about sex Thu, 04 Mar 2010 03:39:22 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 en hourly 1 Welcome Midwest Teen Sex Show viewers! http://blog.sfsi.org/2009/01/08/mtss/ http://blog.sfsi.org/2009/01/08/mtss/#comments Thu, 08 Jan 2009 08:40:12 +0000 Hot Karl http://blog.sfsi.org/?p=177 We’re big fans of MTSS.  If SFSI were to ever do sex education videos, we’d probably try for something both fun and informative.  However, we don’t have to.

SFSI and MTSS are now working together, they’re making the videos, and we’re answering your questions.  MTSS viewers are welcome to send us e-mail or call our switchboard!

If you haven’t yet heard of MTSS, go check them out, right now, really, we mean it.  It’s not just for teens.

]]> http://blog.sfsi.org/2009/01/08/mtss/feed/ 0 2nd Annual Burnlesque! (SFSI Fundraiser) – Jan 24th http://blog.sfsi.org/2009/01/07/burnlesque09/ http://blog.sfsi.org/2009/01/07/burnlesque09/#comments Thu, 08 Jan 2009 01:17:48 +0000 Hot Karl http://blog.sfsi.org/?p=104 The Second Annual Burnlesque will be on
Saturday, January 24th
Last year’s event was rip-roaring fun in addition to being a successful fundraiser for SFSI.

If you went last year, you know not to sleep on this one. If you missed out, here’s the latest iteration for you. Presales are highly encouraged due to limited tickets.*

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Burnlesque is back! Feathered Burlesque Beauties will heat up the night while Bay Area DJs shake the dancefloor until the wee hours of the morning. Throw on your finest top hat, slip into your sexiest skirt, and come into Oakland to help raise funds for San Francisco Sex Information. 21+, don’t forget your ID.

Visual Treats:

  • Cheese Puffs
  • Les Moquettes Coquettes
  • sarah. bowman.

Audio Beats:

  • Squelchy
  • SchwaBam
  • The Fingermonsters
  • Faye Valentine
  • Mariposa
  • Redstickman

Chill Room hosted by: Ambient Mafia

  • Big Sloppy
  • Harken
  • Olde Nasty
  • Seventh Swami
  • Hickory
  • The Captain
  • Boomerang Fidget

Solid Sound provided by: Know Audio

Sexy Lighting by: Radiant Atmospheres

Doors open @ 10pm
21+, don’t forget your ID.
Location TBA on website, day of event.

Cheap Presales: $10. Limited Door: $15

Tickets, More Info and Directions: www.odd-but-true.com

]]> http://blog.sfsi.org/2009/01/07/burnlesque09/feed/ 0 Burnlesque, Jan 12th: Fire. Sex. Dancing. (SFSI Fundraiser!) http://blog.sfsi.org/2008/01/04/burnlesque-2008/ http://blog.sfsi.org/2008/01/04/burnlesque-2008/#comments Fri, 04 Jan 2008 21:28:02 +0000 Hot Karl http://blog.sfsi.org/2008/01/04/fundraiser-jan-12/ sfsi_flyer.jpgFlaming Fire Cuties and Feathered Burlesque Beauties will light up the night while Bay Area DJs shake the dancefloor until the wee hours of the morning. Throw on your finest top hat, slip into your sexiest heels, and come into Oakland to help raise funds for San Francisco Sex Information. 21+, don’t forget your ID.

Date: Saturday, January 12th
Location: ACME Warehouse, 1281 30th St., Emeryville

Performers:
The Fingermonsters
Forest Green
Dragn’fly
Squelchy
Faye Valentine
gerber
Jose Padilla

Fire Art Provided by: Department of Spontaneous Combustion
Drinks tended by: Liquid Diet Lounge
Chill Room hosted by: Ambient Mafia

Doors open @ 9. Cost: $5-$15 , sliding scale. No-one turned away for lack of funds.

]]> http://blog.sfsi.org/2008/01/04/burnlesque-2008/feed/ 2 More sex educators hit the street… http://blog.sfsi.org/2007/12/07/more-sex-educators-hit-the-street/ http://blog.sfsi.org/2007/12/07/more-sex-educators-hit-the-street/#comments Fri, 07 Dec 2007 21:41:41 +0000 Hot Karl http://blog.sfsi.org/2007/12/07/more-sex-educators-hit-the-street/ Last week we completed the Fall 2007 training cycle. Twenty five new fresh faced sex educators are hitting the streets.
The graduation party is Saturday, 8 Dec 2007. If you’re part of the SFSI family and haven’t gotten an invitation, contact Michelle.

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Let’s talk about sex
San Francisco Sex Information, 415-989-SFSI
The extensively trained staff at the San Francisco Sex Information help line have been doling out advice about getting down — techniques, fetishes, STDs — since 1972. Volunteers undergo extensive training in all aspects of human sexuality, including reproduction, birth control, safer sex practices, HIV, sexual identity and gender identity. Counseling is also available in Spanish. Their hours are Monday-Thursday 3-9 p.m., Friday 3-7 p.m., Saturday and Sunday 2-6 p.m. PST. They’re confidential and open-minded, but sternly warn that they do not provide phone sex.

MSNBC has the text version.

]]> http://blog.sfsi.org/2007/12/07/sfsi-on-the-today-show/feed/ 0 How do I develop a non-sexual bondage relationship with a woman? http://blog.sfsi.org/2007/10/15/how-do-i-develop-a-non-sexual-bondage-relationship-with-a-woman/ http://blog.sfsi.org/2007/10/15/how-do-i-develop-a-non-sexual-bondage-relationship-with-a-woman/#comments Mon, 15 Oct 2007 23:19:33 +0000 Hot Karl http://blog.sfsi.org/2007/10/15/how-do-i-develop-a-non-sexual-bondage-relationship-with-a-woman/ Q: I am aroused by bondage. I think that it all started when I was a little kid and I would play cops and robbers with my brother, if the cop was captured, he would be placed on a chair and tape gagged until we ‘escaped’. My siblings and I would always play kinky sort of bondage games when we were little, we have never talked about it though, they either have forgotten or are ashamed of what we did, but the desire still is with me.

I am now all grown up an still have a huge desire concerning bondage, primarily concerning duct tape, gags, kidnap-and interrogation-fantasy. I want to get in a relationship concerning this, but I don’t know how to go about doing it. I don’t know how to tell, or if you can, if a woman wants to get involved with mutual sessions of the sort.

Let me be clear, I don’t want to have sex until I am married. Sure bondage has a sexual idea about it but it has a far wider appeal to it than just that. I can’t go to my family about any of this, I’ve probed them and can see that they have no religious tolerance for what I want to do. I am embarrassed to just approach a woman about this either. I have heard of BDSM clubs, but there are none within reach of me.

How do I develop a bondage relationship with a woman? I don’t know what to do or wear to go! Oh, and if it helps, I want to participate as a top and a bottom for the other’s enjoyment as well.

A: You mentioned BDSM clubs, and they can be a great place for someone to learn about BDSM and find other people interested in BDSM relationships. Since we don’t know where you’re e-mailing from we can’t give you more specific information on groups in your area, but try the Society of Janus for clubs near you.

While local communities tend to be the best way to meet people, if you are truly in a remote place then there are online personals for people interested in BSDM. Most websites of this type also have forums and groups for people living in certain areas. Extra care, of course, should be taken when meeting with someone in person if you only know them from the internet. The most popular personals site is bondage.com. When you meet someone from online it’s best to meet for coffee or other public place before getting intimate.

A quick note about terminology – if you’re looking to participate as both a top and a bottom you can be referred to as a “switch”. If you’re looking for a top and bottom female partner then she would also be a “switch”. You can find out a lot of the inside lingo and mores from books such as The Bottoming Book and The Topping Book by Dossie Easton & Catherine A. Liszt, or SM 101 by Jay Wiseman.

]]> http://blog.sfsi.org/2007/10/15/how-do-i-develop-a-non-sexual-bondage-relationship-with-a-woman/feed/ 0 Do I use one or two fingers to masturbate my female partner? What is the best technique? http://blog.sfsi.org/2007/10/08/do-i-use-one-or-two-fingers-to-masturbate-my-female-partner-what-is-the-best-technique/ http://blog.sfsi.org/2007/10/08/do-i-use-one-or-two-fingers-to-masturbate-my-female-partner-what-is-the-best-technique/#comments Mon, 08 Oct 2007 23:25:02 +0000 Hot Karl http://blog.sfsi.org/2007/10/08/do-i-use-one-or-two-fingers-to-masturbate-my-female-partner-what-is-the-best-technique/ Q: Do I use one or two fingers to masturbate my female partner? What is the best technique?

A: The best technique is the one that works for your partner the best. Asking your partner what she likes best can be a great way to find this out! Another idea is to experiment and ask for feedback from your partner in the moment about how it feels.

The location of the stimulation can matter as much or more than the number of fingers used. You might want to pay some attention to the clitoris as well as the vaginal opening, or even experiment with finding the G-spot. Some women appreciate extra lubrication, and it’s always a good idea to have some K-Y Jelly or any good water-based lube on hand.

Here is a short Wikipedia entry on female masturbation, you might find it a useful starting point. There are also many books and videos available on female masturbation. One of the most popular is She Comes First: The… Guide to Pleasuring a Woman.

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