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Should I surprise my wife with a 3rd partner?

Q: My wife and I have been married for 10 years. We’re happy but the sex has gone from hot to not, and infrequent. I am trying to help rekindle something hot again. Here’s the thing: I have a friend and colleague, FriendX, that my wife is infatuated with. He’s a tall fit gentleman that [...]

Why does it burn when I pee?

Q: I’m a male and I’ve never had sex. I am 15. When I pee it burns. It only happens once in a while. Is there any possible way this is normal so I can forget about this? Because I am scared to go to the doctor and find out I have an std. A: [...]

Can I get HPV from another woman?

Q: Just wondering if you can pass HPV from a female to another female. My girlfriend went in for her pap when we first got together and she came back clean but she went back a couple of weeks ago and they put her on some medicine for HPV. Since she has not cheated on [...]

Will some BDSM trigger my lover’s combat memories?

Q: I have recently reconnected with an old lover; we have been writing occasionally for years, but only recently saw each other after 30 years. He’s a combat veteran, has a Purple Heart, and was involved in some serious intrigue overseas. We’ve discussed restraints in the past, just kind of flirting with naughtiness, and I [...]

Why do my condoms keep breaking?

Q: I have a question about safe condom use. I often have condoms break and I’m not sure why. I understand how to put them on correctly, how to leave space at the tip, how to pinch the tip as you are first rolling it on, and how to keep it lubricated if needed. And [...]

How can I help my boyfriend give me better oral sex?

Q: How can I help my boyfriend give me better oral sex? He tries pretty hard to get me off, although not quite as often as I would like. It is difficult thought, because it takes me so long to orgasm and his lengthy efforts so often leave both of us frustrated that I would [...]

How to continue sex life after MS diagnosis?

Q: I am a 57 year old female, straight, and have had MS for the last 3 years. I left a long-term relationship a few years ago because it wasn’t going to be able to weather the MS. He wasn’t the right partner to be with once I had a serious, chronic illness. It scared [...]

Can I take my sex toys with me to other countries?

Q: I would like to know if it is OK to travel with my sex toys in my checked-in luggage to Saudi Arabia. Will be a problem for me? What is your advice? My sex toys include rubber/silicon dildos and a vibrator. A: The quick answer, according to the web site www.virtualtourist.com, is that sex [...]

Is it ok to have rape fantasies?

Q: I am a woman with a question I don’t exactly know how to phrase. It has to do with what excites me, sexually. It doesn’t have to do with typical bondage/S&M type fetishes, which I have explored actively throughout my life and have come to accept as not inherently bad for me. This interest [...]

How to avoid MRSA at the sex club?

Q: I was curious, what is my risk of contracting MRSA when I go to a sex club, provided that I use gloves when touching genital area and condoms for penetration (oral or other). Is it a higher risk than the same kind of activity in a private setting because of contact with surfaces or [...]