Comments for San Francisco Sex Information http://blog.sfsi.org Free, confidential, non-judgmental advice about sex Thu, 20 Nov 2008 21:59:52 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 Comment on Should I worry about my boyfriend’s taste in porn? by Marie http://blog.sfsi.org/2008/11/12/should-i-worry-about-my-boyfriends-taste-in-porn/#comment-415 Marie Mon, 17 Nov 2008 02:04:35 +0000 http://blog.sfsi.org/?p=84#comment-415 I don't know if the people that submit these questions ever visit the page where they're displayed, but if they do or anyone else has this problem, I'd like to offer my opinion. Apparently, I'll be the only one. (Really, how come no one ever comments here?) Watching porn does not mean you are dissatisfied with the sexual relationship you have with your partner. If your boyfriend still shows an attraction to you, and he's not using porn to replace you, you have no need to worry. Porn is just a masturbation-enhancer for most of us. More than anything, I suggest you just ask your boyfriend. Say, "I know this is silly, but I just need to hear from you that you find me attractive even though you enjoy watching porn that features girls very unlike me." If your boyfriend is worth the time you've spent worrying about your relationship, he'll respond reassuringly and with understanding. I've had insecurities with my boyfriend, often based on nothing, and occasionally based on some pretty suggestive "evidence," and all it took was his assurance that everything was fine to make me feel better. Don't hide this from your boyfriend, talk it out. And, as suggested, check out some porn yourself so you'll have a better understanding of where the appeal comes from. I don’t know if the people that submit these questions ever visit the page where they’re displayed, but if they do or anyone else has this problem, I’d like to offer my opinion.
Apparently, I’ll be the only one. (Really, how come no one ever comments here?)

Watching porn does not mean you are dissatisfied with the sexual relationship you have with your partner.
If your boyfriend still shows an attraction to you, and he’s not using porn to replace you, you have no need to worry. Porn is just a masturbation-enhancer for most of us.

More than anything, I suggest you just ask your boyfriend. Say, “I know this is silly, but I just need to hear from you that you find me attractive even though you enjoy watching porn that features girls very unlike me.” If your boyfriend is worth the time you’ve spent worrying about your relationship, he’ll respond reassuringly and with understanding.

I’ve had insecurities with my boyfriend, often based on nothing, and occasionally based on some pretty suggestive “evidence,” and all it took was his assurance that everything was fine to make me feel better.

Don’t hide this from your boyfriend, talk it out. And, as suggested, check out some porn yourself so you’ll have a better understanding of where the appeal comes from.

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]]> Comment on Why do I want to see my wife with another man? by Furt http://blog.sfsi.org/2008/04/09/58/#comment-257 Furt Fri, 05 Sep 2008 07:33:51 +0000 http://blog.sfsi.org/?p=58#comment-257 I love that thought I fanatasize about the same thing I love that thought I fanatasize about the same thing

]]> Comment on Am I sick to like shit play? by Frank and Susi http://blog.sfsi.org/2008/08/13/am-i-sick-to-like-shit-play/#comment-251 Frank and Susi Sat, 30 Aug 2008 08:43:15 +0000 http://blog.sfsi.org/?p=68#comment-251 Interesting blog! We are a married couple, both bisexual nad heavily into scatsex. We are both toilets and love to receive from our respective lovers. We think scatsex is the most intimate and needs some guts to start it; however once you are "in" you love it! Interesting blog! We are a married couple, both bisexual nad heavily into scatsex. We are both toilets and love to receive from our respective lovers. We think scatsex is the most intimate and needs some guts to start it; however once you are “in” you love it!

]]> Comment on Where can I find an Ageplay partner? by Ali http://blog.sfsi.org/2008/01/09/where-can-i-find-an-ageplay-partner/#comment-242 Ali Tue, 19 Aug 2008 22:32:02 +0000 http://blog.sfsi.org/2008/01/09/where-can-i-find-an-ageplay-partner/#comment-242 There are quarterly AgePlay parties hosted in Santa Clara at a local club, Edges. There is also monthly age play munch in San Jose hosted via www.bbif.org There are quarterly AgePlay parties hosted in Santa Clara at a local club, Edges. There is also monthly age play munch in San Jose hosted via http://www.bbif.org

]]> Comment on Should I start masturbating? by Lil'Miss B http://blog.sfsi.org/2008/04/02/should-i-start-masturbating/#comment-153 Lil'Miss B Sat, 24 May 2008 03:40:53 +0000 http://blog.sfsi.org/2008/04/02/should-i-start-masturbating/#comment-153 Please send us your questions by email to ask-us@sfsi.org or call 415-989-SFSI for anonymous help over the phone. Please send us your questions by email to ask-us@sfsi.org or call 415-989-SFSI for anonymous help over the phone.

]]> Comment on Will she get pregnant? I pulled out. by Lil'Miss B http://blog.sfsi.org/2008/01/30/will-she-get-pregnant-i-pulled-out/#comment-152 Lil'Miss B Sat, 24 May 2008 03:40:19 +0000 http://blog.sfsi.org/2008/01/30/will-she-get-pregnant-i-pulled-out/#comment-152 Please send us your questions by email to ask-us@sfsi.org or call 415-989-SFSI for anonymous help over the phone. Please send us your questions by email to ask-us@sfsi.org or call 415-989-SFSI for anonymous help over the phone.

]]> Comment on Will she get pregnant? I pulled out. by Tyler http://blog.sfsi.org/2008/01/30/will-she-get-pregnant-i-pulled-out/#comment-150 Tyler Fri, 23 May 2008 18:55:39 +0000 http://blog.sfsi.org/2008/01/30/will-she-get-pregnant-i-pulled-out/#comment-150 If am wearing a condom do i have to still pull out of her vagina before I cum? If am wearing a condom do i have to still pull out of her vagina before I cum?

]]> Comment on Should I start masturbating? by john http://blog.sfsi.org/2008/04/02/should-i-start-masturbating/#comment-127 john Thu, 15 May 2008 14:43:43 +0000 http://blog.sfsi.org/2008/04/02/should-i-start-masturbating/#comment-127 i need to know how can you get a girl to come to that point b/c me and my partner, when we have sex she dont get off but she tells me how she does it but i just cant to seem to do it. i need to know how can you get a girl to come to that point b/c me and my partner, when we have sex she dont get off but she tells me how she does it but i just cant to seem to do it.

]]> Comment on Should I get my throat checked for HPV? by Lil'Miss B http://blog.sfsi.org/2008/03/19/should-i-get-my-throat-checked-for-hpv/#comment-94 Lil'Miss B Thu, 03 Apr 2008 19:35:52 +0000 http://blog.sfsi.org/2008/03/19/should-i-get-my-throat-checked-for-hpv/#comment-94 HPV tests are conducted by taking a tissue sample. The most common type of HPV test is from a PAP smear performed on a woman's cervix. It is possible you could find a doctor who would be willing to take a tissue sample of your throat and get it tested, if they accept the possibility of risk in your case. We prefer to answer questions via email. Please write to us if you have more questions about HPV. We are not medical professionals and cannot diagnose you. If you are concerned you have an STD in your throat you should get checked right away. As shown in this chart there could be one of several possible infections. http://www.dph.sf.ca.us/sfcityclinic/stdbasics/stdchart.asp HPV tests are conducted by taking a tissue sample. The most common type of HPV test is from a PAP smear performed on a woman’s cervix. It is possible you could find a doctor who would be willing to take a tissue sample of your throat and get it tested, if they accept the possibility of risk in your case.

We prefer to answer questions via email. Please write to us if you have more questions about HPV. We are not medical professionals and cannot diagnose you. If you are concerned you have an STD in your throat you should get checked right away. As shown in this chart there could be one of several possible infections.

http://www.dph.sf.ca.us/sfcityclinic/stdbasics/stdchart.asp

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