http://blog.sfsi.org Free, confidential, non-judgmental advice about sex Thu, 20 Nov 2008 04:18:53 +0000 http://backend.userland.com/rss092 en Q: My partner had a positive pap smear (for HPV). We are in our late 40s/early 50s. We swing, and we've had sex with a lot of people, but we almost always use condoms. Should we tell our other sexual partners? If we do, how far back should we go? ... http://blog.sfsi.org/2008/11/19/we-swing-and-have-hpv-how-should-we-proceed-from-here/ Q: I feel insecure because my shorter boyfriend likes to look at "young," "teen," and "petite" porn. As a 5'10" woman in her 30s, these are fantasies I can obviously not satisfy. Do I have reason to worry? If not, what do you suggest I do to overcome this ... http://blog.sfsi.org/2008/11/12/should-i-worry-about-my-boyfriends-taste-in-porn/ Q: I am considering trying escort/sex work, and I'm not sure where to start. A good friend of mine is doing a great job of working for herself through online ad sites, while maintaining safety and sex-positivity. I'm not sure if I should gain experience through an agency ... http://blog.sfsi.org/2008/11/05/how-should-i-get-started-as-a-sex-worker/ Q: I like to watch porn. Not most of it (I'm pretty picky) and not obsessively. As you can see I feel the need to defend my porn watching even to you! I do get decent doses of smut and I'm happy with that. My question is, ... http://blog.sfsi.org/2008/10/29/will-my-porn-interests-keep-getting-more-kinky/ Q: I visited your website and found it useful for me. I am male and want to know the answers of the following questions: 1. My girlfriend was very hot in the beginning but now her desire for sex is almost finished. A year ago when I sucked her nipple she ... http://blog.sfsi.org/2008/10/22/what-happened-to-my-girlfriends-libido/ Q: Can you tell me why single male swingers often get the boot by most swingers including couples and even many single women? Is it a personal security issue? I noticed that most swingers who are couples, women, and men alike prefer only women and couples. Most of their ads ... http://blog.sfsi.org/2008/10/15/why-cant-i-get-into-a-swing-club/ Tune in to KALX 90.7 Thursday Oct. 16 from 9-9:30 a.m. to hear SFSI on the radio! Two SFSI trainers will be featured on North Gate Radio, speaking with Sierra Filucci. They will be discussing Sexual Taboos - a topic taught in the renown SFSI Sex Educator Trainings. If you miss ... http://blog.sfsi.org/2008/10/14/sfsi-on-the-radio-oct-16-2008/ Q: I'm a heterosexual male who is turned on by women, whether looking at them or fooling around. While I don't feel any attraction whatsoever to men I do get a rush (and an erection) when getting a massage from a male practitioner. In fact, I took this one step ... http://blog.sfsi.org/2008/10/01/am-i-an-exhibitionist/ Q: I started having sex about 6 months ago, and every time I have it I cannot feel anything. It's supposed to feel good right? The only thing I can feel is him in me, it doesn't feel good. Even when he fingers me, it doesn't feel ... http://blog.sfsi.org/2008/09/24/is-sex-supposed-to-feel-good-am-i-pregnant/ Be sure to stop by our beer booth at the Folsom Street Fair on Sunday, September 28, 2008! The beer booth is one of our regular fund-raising efforts and a great way to help out the organization while you're at the Fair. We have had tons of fun the ... http://blog.sfsi.org/2008/09/24/folsom-street-fair-beer-booth-sfsi-fundraiser/