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How to avoid MRSA at the sex club?

Q: I was curious, what is my risk of contracting MRSA when I go to a sex club, provided that I use gloves when touching genital area and condoms for penetration (oral or other).

Is it a higher risk than the same kind of activity in a private setting because of contact with surfaces or towels (provided I’m not sharing a towel)? I’m very careful about always sitting on my towel, no kissing, and no genital contact without a barrier but one of my current partners believes that just my going to a sex club is putting him at risk for contracting MRSA.

I’m a gay ftm guy and just trying to get a realistic picture of what my risks are.

A: MRSA is not so much an STD as a bacteria that lives on surfaces (and people) and is very hard to kill. It lives anywhere there are a lot of people and a lot of moisture, such as hospitals, prisons and military barracks. It’s not just for bath houses! The other people could have MRSA places other than their genitals, and it could be spread through skin to skin contact. However, it sounds like you are taking a lot of the necessary precautions.

Some steps to reducing your chance of contact with MRSA are the following -

- wear shoes, even flip flops
- use a clean towel to sit on (check!)
- use condoms and other barriers (check!)
- wash your hands for 20 seconds or use Purell after touching people or surfaces. You can do this at the end of the night and each time you go to the toilet,
- sanitize surfaces and tools (dildo, clamps) with rubbing alcohol

Here is some more information on Wikipedia.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Methicillin-resistant_Staphylococcus_aureus

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What can cause the development of auto-erotic asphyxia behaviors?

Q: What can cause the development of auto-erotic asphyxia behaviors?

A: We are unaware of any research on how the behavior develops, but the reason people do it is because many people feel that it provides a very pleasurable orgasm. Auto-erotic asphyxiation is a moderately common sexual act and fantasy. It also can be a highly dangerous activity if not practiced carefully. There have been many documented deaths, some of rather famous people, who have died during asphyxiation accidents.

Wikipedia has good information on the subject at http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erotic_asphyxiation

Additionally, there are *safer* (nothing is ever safe) methods of practice. One of the best is to have a safety person physically present (in the room, aware of what’s going on, sober). Even if they are not participating in the act, they can help if something goes terribly wrong.

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The Switchboard is open

The SFSI switchboard was down for a week due to technical difficulties. We have reopened and are back to normal business hours.

Why didn’t I ejaculate from that orgasm?

Q: I am a guy and I got my first oral oral experience with my girlfriend recently. When I came there was this very weird sensation (like tingling in my chest and rising up the face) that I never felt before when I reached orgasm by masturbation. That was just one thing. After I came she kept on going and I had to stop her and told her that I was done. (She has done it before many times so she would know when to stop). The next day we were talking about it and she said that she didn’t stop because she didn’t know I came. She said she didn’t taste or feel any ejaculate.

What could this be? I know she wouldn’t taste anything if I ejaculated way down the throat. But given the sensations that I felt I think something might have happened differently. I think it was an inward or non-ejaculatory orgasm. Could it be?
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Switchboard closed for Thanksgiving weekend

The phone switchboard and email response department will be closed for the weekend. The phones will be open and emails responded to starting on Monday November 30, 2009 3pm Pacific. Please try then.

For general questions please check out our FAQ and blog.

If you are having a health emergency please contact your doctor or local emergency services.

I’m uncircumcised, and need condom advice…

Q: I am uncircumcised and I had a few questions first, I can’t find a condom that works with my penis. The foreskin moves up and down and and the condom starts to ride up my penis and bunch up and hang off at the end. I was wondering if there was a certain kind of condom for uncircumcised guys so the foreskin could move freely. Second, some times after I have sex my forekin gets real tight and I can’t retract it and if I try to it starts to tear and is really tight. I don’t know what it is from. I have a long overhang and I can always retract my foreskin just fine except once in a while it’ll get tight. Third is it normal for women to bite and pull on the foreskin when giving oral sex? It dosen’t hurt much but this girl always bites and pulls it.

A: It is possible to find a condom that will work for you. Condoms come in hundreds of shapes and sizes. If you are able to browse the internet, please check out this site, www.condomania.com. You don’t have to buy from there, but you can look at the brands and styles and then go to your local store to buy them.

Also check out this page on the site which shows condoms with more headroom and a tight fitting base.
http://secure.condomania.com/products.asp?dept=40

In general, ensure the condom is applied correctly. Pull the foreskin back before putting it on, then push forward over the head of the penis once the condom been fully unrolled.

We are not sure why your foreskin became tight. It could be due to temperature or arousal levels. It sounds like it recovered so that’s good news. For your girlfriend who bites and pulls on your foreskin, you will just need to tell her what you like. She is probably just trying to please you and find out what feels good. The skin may be fun to play with. If you like it you should tell her or make happy noises. If you want her to do something else then tell her that too.

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Didn’t have sex, but still worried about pregnancy…

Q: I’ve read your FAQ and read that, “It is almost impossible for a woman to become pregnant from a man ejaculating on her clothing or near her underwater. ”

My situation is that I’ve never had direct genital contact with my boyfriend (no penetration, no rubbing genitals, no nothing).

However, I’ve masturbated him, and although after his ejaculation was always on his body (and never near me), and that we have always washed our hands with water and soap afterward, not always did we wash his penis. We did wipe it dry though, and put it back in his pants.

I’m worried if I could get pregnant from him touching his penis for some reason and then touching me (which is always from the ‘outside’ too, once I have always, at least, my underwear on), therefore transferring some sort of residue with his fingers and allowing sperm near my vagina.

Or maybe, from a second time after ejaculation, if he touches the outside of my panties with a little precum on his fingers. I’d like to just mention that he has never touched my with his hands soaking with semen, nor dripping precum and that he has never directly touched my vagina (always at least one layer of clothing between us).

My period is now 3 days late and I’m starting to freak out, specially because I didn’t feel PMS symptoms this month. Could I be pregnant?

A: The only way for a woman to get pregnant is for semen to be directly inserted into the vaginal canal. Pregnancy is a fairly delicate process, and many things have to go well for a pregnancy to take hold.

From the situations you describe, it is very, very unlikely if not impossible for you to be pregnant. It is not possible to get pregnant through clothing. So any amount of semen or sperm on the outside of your underwear is not going to lead to pregnancy. If he touches his penis and then touches the outside of your clothes, you will not get pregnant. Even if he touched his penis and touched your vagina directly, it is very unlikely that you could become pregnant.

Menstrual cycles can be impacted by many things, including eating and sleeping habits, and stress. Sometimes, excessive worry about your cycle can contribute to it being late. We recommend that you relax, take care of yourself, and contact a medical health provider if you continue to have concerns. If you are still worried, you can always take a pregnancy test to answer your questions concretely.

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Why can’t I orgasm?

Q: I’ve never had an orgasm. I’ve tried masturbation, and what I try that isn’t painful, is ineffective. The only two times I’ve had sex have been very painful and not enjoyable. I’ve had oral sex with a couple of guys and nothing has made me climax. I’m thinking that much of it could be psychological. I felt ashamed after a guy has given me oral sex. I’ve had weight and body image issues for a long time, and have always refused to have sex while being overweight. But I still have always been afraid that there is something anatomically or psychically wrong with me.

A: You said that you have tried masturbating, which is a really good way to find out what feels good and what doesn’t. What kind of techniques are you using? Have you tried using lubrication? A lot of people find clitoral stimulation can be really pleasing, directly or indirectly (touching or rubbing it with your hand and some lube, rubbing that general area with a soft object, or using a vibrator or shower massager). Many people especially find it easy to climax using a vibrator. You could also try a back massager, which can be found at any pharmacy or drugstore.

It can be helpful to experiment on your own to see what you may like, and then later try it out with a partner. Make sure that you talk to your partner before and during sex, and don’t be afraid to tell them if something feels good or bad. Also, be sure to go slowly and use enough lube. Lubrication can make a huge difference in how pleasurable sex may feel.

Keep in mind that not everyone enjoys oral sex, and people’s tastes and preferences definitely vary. It doesn’t hurt to try, but don’t get discouraged if you’re not loving the sensations.

Lastly, it’s probably a good idea to go to your doctor for an annual exam. They can make sure that everything is working just fine, and answer any other questions you may have.

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The best STD test answers ever!

Q: I’m trying to find accurate and consistent window periods for testing for various STDs as well as how long it takes to get results. Unfortunately, this information seems to be very hard to find at all and sometimes conflicting when I do find it. I know this will vary from state to state, clinic to clinic

Of greatest concern is the time it takes to get results. Please give me information for all the common STDs. Thanks.

A: Here are our best answers, broken down by disease.

> Chlamydia – standard used to be a bacterial culture (takes a few days to come back), but more common nowadays and more preferred for accuracy is a bacterial DNA PCR or SDA (both are types of NAAT). This can give results overnight. Both tests most commonly use urine samples. Window period is 2 days to 2 weeks.

> HPV – HPV testing done in the form of a visual inspection plus an application of acetic acid in a clinic can give you immediate results as to whether or not a lesion is HPV. This is the only way one can test for warts. Pap smears need to be read by a cytologist in a lab; depending on how busy your clinic’s lab is, this could take a few days or as long as two weeks to receive a result. Window period can be a few weeks to a few years; unfortunately, if someone gets an HPV outbreak or abnormal pap smear, it could be the result of HPV exposure from several years ago.

> Gonorrhea – same as Chlamydia. Time does not vary by specimen location per se; that said, some labs require a different collection tube for oral/throat specimens, and that can take a couple of extra days. Window period 2 days to 2 weeks.

> Herpes – visual inspection is the starting point, and suspicious lesions or rashes can be swabbed for viral culture. The culture takes a couple of days to grow in the lab, and may take an extra day for the lab to run typing on the viral DNA to distinguish between HSV I and HSV II. Blood Ab tests should take about a day to come back as reactive or not, and another day to run typing between HSV I and HSV II. Window period 2 days to 2 months; some people may contract HSV but never have obvious symptoms of an outbreak.

> HIV – we don’t have statistics about how many places use rapid tests vs. DNA tests; that said, in San Francisco, most clinics use rapid tests as a starting point to check for antibodies; any reactive test is confirmed with multiple Ab tests (Western blot and Elisa) and a PCR and/or a viral load. It is less common for clinics in this area to send tests to an outside lab for Ab. Ab and PCR tests should be available from a lab in a couple of days. Window period varies state-to-state; in California for antibody testing, it is 2 weeks to 6 months, with 98% of people developing antibodies 3 months after contracting HIV. DNA PCR tests are accurate 6 weeks after exposure.

> Syphilis – the blood test is an Ab test, either VDRL or RPR. Both of these take multiple steps: one to find an initial reactivity, and another to confirm that it is due to the syphilis bacterium. People with a history of syphilis infections will always test positive on the first step, so their specimens will always require multiple steps. The first step of this test can usually be completed in a day or two, with another day or two for subsequent steps on reactive specimens. Window period up to 2 months.

> Trichomoniasis – most clinics do not send specimens to outside labs for testing, though there is a culture available. Clinicians can diagnose trich off of a wet mount: a sample of discharge smeared onto a microscope slide examined in your doctor’s office. It is rare to test men for this infection, as they seldom have symptoms, but if a woman tests positive for trich she can request medication for her partners. Window period 1-2 weeks.

One thing we’d note about the more sensitive tests: they can sometimes be too sensitive and give false positive results. We have heard clients say that they test positive on a test, ask for a retest, and then show up negative. Also, depending on what lab your clinic or doctor’s office uses, test results may be delayed. We hear from local clinics that specimens they send to the local Department of Public Health Lab can take as long as 2 weeks to return results to them, but private labs may return results overnight. Your provider’s office may have either financial or contractual considerations as to which labs they use.

Reliable sources to get information about testing and window periods are:
http://www.labtestsonline.org/
http://www.ashastd.org/

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