San Francisco Sex Information » gay http://blog.sfsi.org Free, confidential, non-judgmental advice about sex Thu, 04 Mar 2010 03:39:22 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 en hourly 1 I had a dream I kissed a girl. Am I bisexual? http://blog.sfsi.org/2009/10/07/i-had-a-dream-i-kissed-a-girl-am-i-bisexual/ http://blog.sfsi.org/2009/10/07/i-had-a-dream-i-kissed-a-girl-am-i-bisexual/#comments Thu, 08 Oct 2009 02:57:03 +0000 Lil'Miss B http://blog.sfsi.org/?p=310 Q: I am 14 years old and last night I had a dream about me hooking up (majorly) with another girl. I have never properly kissed either a guy or a girl but I had this really intense dream which makes me think. Am I in denial? Am I actually a bisexual or even a lesbian? I’ve always thought it would be interesting to kiss a girl as well, just to say I have done it. But I think I would rather do the whole guy thing. Can you please help me?

A: Aren’t dreams amazing? So, what you have experienced is only a dream. Just as simple as that. There’s nothing wrong with feeling interested in kissing a girl or a boy. You are 14 years old and are still getting used to your body, and other feelings that come up. Fantasies are fun to have. Figuring out if you really like boys or girls in reality is something you have lots of time to do. What you are experiencing is pretty normal, and just realize that there are other girls and boys who might feel the same way. Again, its normal to have dreams and also to wonder what is the right path for you.

]]> http://blog.sfsi.org/2009/10/07/i-had-a-dream-i-kissed-a-girl-am-i-bisexual/feed/ 0 Am I straight or gay? http://blog.sfsi.org/2009/04/22/am-i-straight-or-gay/ http://blog.sfsi.org/2009/04/22/am-i-straight-or-gay/#comments Thu, 23 Apr 2009 02:31:55 +0000 Lil'Miss B http://blog.sfsi.org/?p=260 Q: I am having trouble figuring out if I am gay or straight. The last time I dated a girl, I had absolutely no connection between us, and that has been happening for a while when I date girls. I also have feelings for male friends I can’t understand. Please help!

A: Thank you for your question. It is not uncommon for one to question their sexuality at some point. While we cannot tell you whether you are straight or gay, there are a few things you may want to take into consideration.

First of all, sexuality is not black and white. You do not necessarily have to choose between gay or straight. There are other identities, such as bisexual or queer, to consider. Perhaps you have an attraction to boys and girls.

Additionally, you may not have connected with the last girl you dated for several reasons, beyond just your sexuality. The feelings you have for your male friends may be sexual, or they may not be. You may want to try exploring these feelings in order to determine whether they are sexual, or not. Most people experiment with people of both sexes at some point in their lives before they become secure in their sexual identity. Given some time to think about your attractions, it should help you figure out what you would like for now.

]]> http://blog.sfsi.org/2009/04/22/am-i-straight-or-gay/feed/ 0 How do you tell which men are bisexual? Do gay men ever want to have sex with women? http://blog.sfsi.org/2008/02/05/how-do-you-tell-which-men-are-bisexual-do-gay-men-ever-want-to-have-sex-with-women/ http://blog.sfsi.org/2008/02/05/how-do-you-tell-which-men-are-bisexual-do-gay-men-ever-want-to-have-sex-with-women/#comments Wed, 06 Feb 2008 04:07:08 +0000 Lil'Miss B http://blog.sfsi.org/2008/02/05/how-do-you-tell-which-men-are-bisexual-do-gay-men-ever-want-to-have-sex-with-women/ Q: How do you tell which men are bisexual? Do gay men ever want to have sex with women?

A: There really isn’t a way of knowing by looking if a man is bisexual or not. The only way to know for sure is to ask his sexual preference. Some might say no, others might say they prefer both sexes.

As for gay men having sex with women? It depends on them. Sexual identity is something each person designates for themselves. If a gay man might want to experiment, he might do it with a female friend he knows and trusts. In general, not many gay men have sex with women.

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