A: You will notice very little difference between a cut and uncut (circumcised and uncircumcised) male penis as far as you are concerned. The foreskin consists of the same skin that is on the head of the penis that folds over part or all of the head when the penis is flaccid (soft) or folds onto the side of the penis during erections. There are nerve endings in the foreskin that are also similar to the nerve endings elsewhere on the penis so this skin is sensitive and can be the source of added pleasure for the uncircumcised person.

The main difference has to do with hygiene as it relates to the uncircumcised penis needing more attention than the circumcised penis in cleaning and keeping the area clean. The area of skin around the head of the uncut penis can tend to have a stronger odor at times than the cut penis if the hygiene is lacking.

There are a few other things to know about the uncut penis such as some men prefer to have the foreskin pulled back prior to receiving oral sex and/or putting on a condom. Also, lube can be even more helpful on the uncircumcised penis, either with or without a condom, to reduce the amount of friction between the loose skin and the rest of the penis.

A: First of all, 2-10 minutes is actually the typical time for a male to reach orgasm, and at your age it is absolutely normal to reach orgasm very quickly. Secondly, many girls would prefer a shorter session to a session that lasts for hours because long sessions of PV sex can lead to pain for women.

As far as suggestions go:

-One thing you can do (if you’re comfortable with masturbation) is to bring yourself close to the point of orgasm, then pause to allow the orgasm cycle to relax, then continue until you get close again, and repeat. This can help train yourself into lasting longer.

-You can also take short breaks during intercourse (engage in other sexual activity- such as oral sex) to essentially do the same thing and extend the session.

-They also make condoms that are thicker than usual to decrease sensitivity, and condoms that contain a desensitizing substance on the inside (Durex Performax, for example).

Also, worrying/thinking about coming too soon will be likely to increase the chance of it happening. Try to relax, have a good time, and you’ll be fine.

[ Cross posted from Yahoo! Answers, where this SFSI Answer was chosen best answer to this question. ]

A: It is possible to find a condom that will work for you. Condoms come in hundreds of shapes and sizes. If you are able to browse the internet, please check out this site, www.condomania.com. You don’t have to buy from there, but you can look at the brands and styles and then go to your local store to buy them.

Also check out this page on the site which shows condoms with more headroom and a tight fitting base.
http://secure.condomania.com/products.asp?dept=40

In general, ensure the condom is applied correctly. Pull the foreskin back before putting it on, then push forward over the head of the penis once the condom been fully unrolled.

We are not sure why your foreskin became tight. It could be due to temperature or arousal levels. It sounds like it recovered so that’s good news. For your girlfriend who bites and pulls on your foreskin, you will just need to tell her what you like. She is probably just trying to please you and find out what feels good. The skin may be fun to play with. If you like it you should tell her or make happy noises. If you want her to do something else then tell her that too.

A: Thank you for your question. The length and circumference of the penis of boys will change as they grow older and go through puberty. Puberty is the process of physical changes by which a child’s body becomes an adult body capable of reproduction. Puberty will occur at different ages for different boys, for some it can start as early as 9 and for others not until 14 or even later. Two fourteen years old boys can have penis sizes that are significantly different. Some boys will not have achieve their adult size penis until late in their teen years. Most adult men will have a penis that is about 4 inches long when flaccid and 5 to 7 inches in length when erect.

A: Adult circumcision is usually done on an outpatient basis by a urologist so there is no hospital stay, and is generally done with local anesthesia and you are awake for the procedure.

There are two techniques that are used to perform the circumcision. The dorsal slit technique involves cutting a small slit down part of the length of the foreskin then the foreskin is pulled back and cut away and sutured.

The second technique is called the sleeve technique. A skin marker is used to mark the incisions and the foreskin is cut around the body of the penis so that a “sleeve” of skin is formed. The foreskin is then separated and removed and sutured.

As with any surgical procedure there are potential complications. Your doctor should be able to tell you about these in detail.

Aftercare involves gentle washing of the wound daily for 5-7 days after which you may shower regularly. Masturbation and intercourse should be avoided for 4-6 weeks after the procedure. But, again, your doctor can give you specific details about aftercare.

For a less medically focused information on adult circumcision, you can visit Go Ask Alice.

What can a man do to gradually stretch the foreskin so that it does not tear during intercourse?

A: The difficulty with retracting the foreskin is called “phimosis”, and it isn’t uncommon in uncircumcised men. It can have different causes, so it might not be a bad idea to go get looked at by a knowledgeable doctor to narrow things down. Most commonly, doctors will recommend treatment by circumcision or by a steroid cream. Some people also have success with simply manually stretching the foreskin–gently, evenly, and frequently. One tool made to help with the manual approach can be found here: www.glansie.com

A: First of all, keep in mind that every guy is different, and that what feels good for one guy may not be great for another guy. So, the most important part of handjobs–or any kind of sex, for that matter–is communication with your partner. This could mean just paying attention to the way he responds to what you’re doing as you try different things, or asking him what he likes. He might even be willing to show you how he likes to be touched.

The general idea of a handjob is to wrap a hand around the shaft of a penis and to stroke it up and down, much the same way a guy would masturbate by himself. However, there are many, many variations: dry or with lubrication, varying the grip, speed, or firmness, or stimulating other areas as well. Both men and women have a high concentration of nerve endings in the genital area, which is what makes it feel good to be touched there. On men, these sensitive areas generally include the head and shaft of the penis, the balls, the skin around and underneath the balls, and even the anus (though many guys are not comfortable being touched there). The most sensitive place on a guy’s penis is typically on the underside, where the head meets the shaft, but just like the clitoris, this can sometimes get oversensitive if it is stimulated too much.

If you’d like to know a little more about techniques that guys use on themselves, you can check out this website on male masturbation called Jackinworld.

For more on this and other general sex information, you might want to check out a book called Guide to Getting It On, published by Goofy Foot Press.

A: Good communication is often a key to positive sexual experience. However, you don’t have to spell everything out right away if it makes you feel uncomfortable. You can mention that you are less experienced, and would want your partner’s instructions. It might start an honest dialogue, an opportunity for her to explain to you what she likes. Also, relax, sex is not a marathon. Take it slow, explore each others bodies and minds at a speed and comfort level compatible to you. Pay attention to what you like and she likes, and you will probably start learning very fast.

Many men worry about the size of their cock. However, there are plenty of men of all sizes that have satisfying sexual relationships. Your cock size probably won’t be a big issue, but should this be a problem for your partner, there are alternate sexual positions you can try together. On all fours with a partner entering vagina from behind (doggy style) helps to increase the depth of penetration. You can place a pillow under her abdomen for her comfort. Some people also like to use sex toys, and/or mutual masturbation, and/or oral sex. Some women care about full penetration, others don’t, and prefer foreplay, oral stimulation, or other forms of sex play instead. Communicating about it is the only way to know for sure!

A: First, let’s talk about how people measure penises. The average sizes that you’ll hear about are usually measured along the top side (the side facing your belly button) and from the crease where the penis comes out of your body up to the opening in the head. There are also two different measurements: erect and flaccid. The average length of erect penises is somewhere around five to six inches, and the average when flaccid is around three and a half to three and three quarters inches.

So if you’re taking your measurement when erect, your penis may be on the short side. If you’re measuring when flaccid, it may be on the long side. Either way, you’re within the range of what’s normal and expected for guys. It might continue to grow a little bit into your early twenties, but probably not significantly–at eighteen most people are pretty much developed.

And there really isn’t anything to be done about it. All those pills and creams you see advertised over the Internet are fake. There are some surgeries that a few people try that can make a penis hang lower when flaccid or be thicker, but they all have low success rates, some pretty awful side effects and many guys who do get them end up being sorry that they did.

All that being said, I’d suggest that the length of your penis shouldn’t have to be a big problem for you. If it works and you enjoy using it, then it’s a fine size. You will encounter some people in the world who prefer partners with longer penises–you’ll also encounter some who prefer shorter penises, and a whole lot of people for whom it just isn’t all that important.

My penis length when erect has been as small as 3 inches and on occasion 4 inches. I would say the average length when erect is only 3.25-3.50 inches. Therefore, since my penis is about 2 inches shorter than the average erect penis size, is my penis too small for intercourse?

Second question is, since I am about 20-25 pounds overweight, will that stop me from having great sex as well (no positions possible with my penis length)? Finally, will I not be able to procreate now since my semen may not be able to ejaculate in a woman’s vagina?

A: Your penis is indeed below average but that does not mean you won’t be able to have intercourse. The length of penis that is considered too small (called a micro-penis) is about 1.5 inches.

It’s a fact that losing some weight would be helpful for accessibility to your penis. The leaner the area around your pelvis is the more positions will open up for you. Even at 20-25 pounds up you can still do intercourse. Some positions you could try that are better for a shorter penis are woman on top, or with you on top – but the woman’s knees are drawn up to her chest or her legs are up in the air. A slightly more acrobatic position is called scissors, where you and the woman would be lying with heads at opposite ends of the bed and feet towards each other, one of you is on your side. Then you would each open your legs and scoot together until your genitals were together.

Penis-vagina sex is not all there is to a healthy and happy sex life. The vagina does not have a lot of nerve endings deep inside and not all women want a large penis. They will feel some pleasure from any size penis, as they do from fingers and sex toys. For many women attention to their clit is much more important and satisfying than intercourse. You may want to look into other ways you could please and entertain a woman such as oral sex and playing out fantasies. If your partner turns out to be interested in feeling more vaginal fullness you can get some dildos that are larger and add playing with those to your sex life. For your own fulfillment you may enjoy to receive oral sex and hand-jobs, or play out fantasies, over having intercourse.

When you get to the point of wanting to procreate you won’t have a problem due to penis size. Any amount of insertion is enough to deliver sperm to the right area. Even ejaculating on the labia can lead to pregnancy. If you and your partner try for a year (if she is under 30, 6 months for over 30) and she does not become pregnant then you both could see a fertility specialist for help. The fertility specialist will be able to tell if the source of a problem is you and your sperm or if it lies with your partner.

We hope this helps!