A: There are many ways to find sexual partners even on a budget. To start, you might want to consider what you like to do for fun and see if you can meet partners there. What are your hobbies? How do you spend your free time? Can you join any groups? Maybe there are groups where you can meet people of the same religion, if that is important to you. Also in some parts of the world people use the Internet and online dating services to meet people. Maybe that is an option in Georgia. You may also be able to find a matchmaker or you can take out an add in a local newspaper to look for a dating, although that will probably cost money.

Hopefully these are some helpful leads and will get you thinking.

A: Good communication is often a key to positive sexual experience. However, you don’t have to spell everything out right away if it makes you feel uncomfortable. You can mention that you are less experienced, and would want your partner’s instructions. It might start an honest dialogue, an opportunity for her to explain to you what she likes. Also, relax, sex is not a marathon. Take it slow, explore each others bodies and minds at a speed and comfort level compatible to you. Pay attention to what you like and she likes, and you will probably start learning very fast.

Many men worry about the size of their cock. However, there are plenty of men of all sizes that have satisfying sexual relationships. Your cock size probably won’t be a big issue, but should this be a problem for your partner, there are alternate sexual positions you can try together. On all fours with a partner entering vagina from behind (doggy style) helps to increase the depth of penetration. You can place a pillow under her abdomen for her comfort. Some people also like to use sex toys, and/or mutual masturbation, and/or oral sex. Some women care about full penetration, others don’t, and prefer foreplay, oral stimulation, or other forms of sex play instead. Communicating about it is the only way to know for sure!

A: First times can be a lot of pressure and stress. For most men having one orgasm by masturbation or oral sex allows them to keep a second erection for a longer period of time. Most men need 10-15 minutes before getting a second erection. Remember, if you do cum once and would like to get another erection there are many activities you can do for and with your partner while you’re waiting to get hard – like oral sex for them or other stimulation.

We recommend that if you know you’re going to have sex in the evening, plan to have an orgasm in the afternoon. That way you’ll be less sensitive for your sexual date and you won’t have to depend on oral sex before intercourse. It will take some of the pressure off.

A: By the age of 21, most women have had their hymen break, and not necessarily through sexual activity. It does sound like it is possible that you could have had some tearing or breaking of your hymen. Sometimes, it will tear partially and some of it will be left intact. It is also possible that the bleeding was unrelated to your hymen. Some women do experience some spotting on occasion that is not their period, especially during times of stress.

A broken hymen does not mean that you have lost your virginity. Many women have their hymens break before having actual intercourse. It can break with regular physical exercise, insertion of tampons, or from masturbation, as well as from intercourse.

Virginity can mean different things to different people. For many people, virginity is connected to having vaginal intercourse, and for others, different sexual activities may also be connected. The definition of virginity can also change over time, as the currently held definitions of virginity might not reflect the same definitions that were true many years ago. We recommend that you identify what feels right for you. If somebody in the future questions your virginity, it may be important to ensure that you are working from the same definition. You can define it for yourself and your relationship.